Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Why fix it if it's not broken?

If your in a stable and happy relationship why change it? Why would you feel it necessary to get married? Especially when divorce rates are so high. Weddings are expensive events, and with today's economy having a beautiful wedding might not be worth it considering the costs. But getting divorce is pretty pricey as well.
To be honest I've never been much of a believer of happy endings. I'm also against marriages. I just haven't felt that a marriage is an equal partnership. In the end it still becomes one sided. So if you are happy with the person you are with and decide that next step is to have children then go for it. Things have change, people no longer down on a person if they have children before marriage. Marriage is a messy complicated thing, it's not for the faint of heart.

2 comments:

Jessica Leigh Stevenson said...

I have to agree with this post. I feel like I totally skipped the "fairy-tale" phase most girls experience as kids. The idea of marriage is so terrifying; not so much because it's supposed to be a life long commitment, but because of the total intimacy a relationship of that nature entails. Granted, this fear and doubt could change in the future. I see divorce all around me. Do the pros of financial security outweigh the cons of potential emotional devastation? A common misconception that we all fall for is that love is some form of magic. Love is not a feeling. It's a choice. There are feelings and emotions involved, because it is so deep..it is that intense. If someone has to marry for economic survival, I can understand that. We make decisions on a daily basis to give ourselves that feeling of security.

Marty Susmaras said...

Have you even ever been married? You seem extremely bitter about it.