Marrying for Money

In a society where the government or state is weak and can not support it's citizens it would be natural for people to marry for more than the reason of love. Yes love is nice but when you want to survive or even thrive in your society you want to marry someone who can benefit you and not be dead weight. A silly but perfect example of this is Princess Jasmine in the movie Aladdin. She fell for Aladdin who was a common theif that had no monetary assets. However her father pressured her to entertain suitors that he deemed more fit to marry his daughter.

Even now in our country I think that it is viewed as irresponsible to marry someone who is not on the same level or higher than you. People who follow their hearts solely can end up in a lopsided marriage where they are the sole provider. Currently there seems to be a shift. The men are being taken care by their women. Some of these couples have actively decided it to be this way. While some women find themselves after marriage discovering that their husband is nothing short of a deadbeat. I take this point of view on marriage because we come from a patriarchal society where the man is supposed to be the leader and strong. The man is viewed as the bread winner for his family. Now things are different. I have noticed this from the relationships around me. The financial stress that is put on women can suck all the love out of a marriage. That being said I am fully aware that some women choose to be the provider for their families and have no issues with it. However in my experience it seems unfair. Marriage is suppose to be a give and take situation, everything being shared, not just the benefits, but the labor to produce those benefits.

I never was one to make a relationship with someone all about their money and what that person could do for me financially. Its not my focus especially not now in college. My mind is not on that wavelength yet. My criteria for a perspective partner is if they are doing something productive with their time, whether that be school or work, or both, and that we have a mutual connection of course. To me at this point and time the amount of money someone makes is inconsequential. I'm sure that will change as I get older and I move into a different economic bracket myself. When I'm ready to really settle down economics and finances will come into account. I want someone who can go the places I want to go, I want someone who is independent and strong. I don't want someone to take care of, thats what children are for. I'm sure that most people will agree.