I don't know if there is anything as a free gift. If there is such a thing then that would mean that the person giving it is totally selfless. And there are no selfless deeds. That may seem pessimistic but I just think it is human nature to want in return. When giving to others we usually expect some form of compensation from the recipient, whether it is a gift of equal value or just their gratitude, we do expect something back. Some people say that they give out of the kindness of their heart but just by doing that you are getting the satisfaction that you did something considered noble or charitable. So that leads me to believe that there is no such thing as a free gift. Payment may come in many different forms but we all expect something when we hand someone a present.
In the essay there was this idea that gifts were linked to the person who gave them to you. I don't think that's just a belief of native tribes. I think Americans believe in this. I know that when I look at the picture frame that my friend gave me last Christmas that has a picture of my favorite person in it (me), I'm reminded instantly of my friend and the bond that we share. It is like a link between us. Gifts are the most simple and materialistic way to show each other how we value one another.
I think that the reason we exchange gifts today goes back to the belief that we are giving a part of our essence when we exchange gifts. And that could be the reason why we feel hurt when someone does not remember to reciprocate. When you give you break off a piece of yourself and attach it to the physical gift and it feels good to have someone do the same. It all comes down the basic need that all humans have, the need to be valued and connect with each other.
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